On September 17, 2010, Out & Equal Tampa Bay presented the Four Sisters Groove to about 20 folks in the audience. I was please to see the people there and especially please to see a couple folks I didn’t know.
Presenting to people is a great way to learn what areas of your topic need improvements, changes or “fleshed out.” From this Groove Session I was able to pick up some things that have been VERY helpful in me understanding what is important about the Groove and how to get it “to stick.”
- Set Up is Key. I have to be honest and say, I kind of skimmed over the set up of the connection of LGBT folks with dancing. I know how important dancing is to our community, but I’m not sure other folks have thought about it before. The introduction is my chance to set the parameters for the Groove Session, which I did do in presenting my philosophy on providing a safe space for LGBT to practice and hone skills required in the outside world, but I could have spent some more time talking about how dancing really is a reflection of the soul, and thus a clear indication of communication. By having a proper set up, I can put everyone attending the Groove Session in the Dance Floor with me.
- Take Nothing for Granted. All my life, I have understood communication styles. In high school, I started noticing them; in college I studied them through Tim and Beverly Lahayes (who basically took it from Hippocrates) and then the Gary Smalley version and then the Myers-Briggs. Later, I broadened my scope to include horoscopes and Jungian Theory. I see it in the writing of most TV shows when they so readily chooses four main characters to represent the four main communication styles. Yet, there may be people in my Groove Session audience who have never heard of any of those things and just watch TV sitcom, because it is funny, not because it can teach you about communication styles. Take nothing for granted and take the time to bring everyone along, so we are again all on the same Dance Floor.
- Information Overload. Since this may be the first time some people have heard about communication styles, this certainly is the first time most everyone has heard about the Groove. It is like common knowledge to me, since I’ve been working on it, but it is something totally new to Groove Session attendees. Yes, self-assessments seem familiar and some folks may have a previous dabbling in communication styles with work, but the Four Sisters Groove has to build a complete foundation of understanding first before it can progress to help teach the steps to effective communication skills. I must take the time during a Groove to completely fill in information and make sure everyone is moving along the Dance Floor together. Honestly, I lost some folks at Crunk. (Maybe not enough of them listen to Hip-Hop music? LOL)
- Practice Does Make Perfect. When it came time to Practice the Groove, I had the participants pair up with people they didn’t know. We had one talker and one listener for five minutes on a subject I gave. The listener was to watch the talker for Crunks, and the talker was to be him/her self. To me, it was interesting to watch the “light bulbs” go off as folks started noticing: “Hey, he really does gesture a lot.” or “She’s hard to hear.” We switched and the pairs even took off more as they started using Crunks to more effectively communicate on our Dance Floor.
- Notes are Good but not a Crutch. Since I had so much time before this Groove Session to work on my Powerpoint presentation, I had written out my notes to where I even had <CLICK> for when to change the slides. Overkill for sure. My best presentations are always the ones I use the notes in my head and eye contact and personal interaction with the individuals in attendance. I was afraid to “miss” something in my talk, but by following my notes to closely, I didn’t sense when attendees had stepped off the Dance Floor.
These are just some of the main things I picked up from the Groove Session hosted by Out & Equal Tampa Bay. I had such a great time doing it, and I think the folks attending did too. Now, on to more Groove Sessions! Let me know if you want one where you are!