Four Sisters Groove – Learning the steps to effective communication

Learning the steps for effective communication is like learning to dance.
Non-fiction, 80K

Dance like no one is watching,
love like you’ve never been hurt,
sing like no one is listening,
and live like it’s heaven on earth.
— Anonymous

Practice Makes Perfect

Saturday night and Hunter wants to dance. He cranks up his screaming diva and wiggles his little butt to a beat he thinks he hears, but isn’t really there. The poor boy has no rhythm. He’s thump-thump challenged.

Or maybe you’ve slid on your cowboy heels and headed down to the watering hole and watched Liz and Sheila two-stepping and wondered how they did it so smoothly. It seemed as if every muscle, every sinew moved perfectly timed.

When you think about it, relationships and dancing have a lot in common: for instance, they both require hard work to get right, and they both can be terribly painful when they go wrong.

God is a DJ. Life is a dance floor. – Pink

Some people do have a slight natural edge over others, yet it takes practice to really hone those moves. An expert is someone who has worked so hard it appears easy to do. Most everyone knows good relationships require open communication. As much as we’d like these skills alone to dramatically and instantaneously improve relationships, we know relationships are a complex web of expectations, needs, and interpersonal skills. However, an improvement in one area can make other aspects of the relationship easier to manage.

The object is not to make other people change, but an interesting thing happens when you make small changes – behavior changes that make it easier for others to relate to you: Over time, the accumulation of temporary and situational changes improves the relationship in subtle, lasting ways.

So the dance becomes smoother, like every move is perfectly timed, because practice makes perfect.

Book Outline

Introduction
Sisters’ Quiz
a. Katie
b. Stacey
c. Gina
d. Tina
Dance Floor
a. Prink Placement
b. Sashay Scale
c. Observing
d. Listening
Grooving
a. Sisters in the Groove
b. Fear and Love
c. Crunks
d. Sketchanese
Dance Cards
a. Introduction
b. Instructions
c. Card copies
d. Follow through